I personally think that it is important to attune ourselves with our purpose, but if that causes an identity crisis, please don’t sweat it my dear reader. Remember that life goes on and if you stop everything just to think about your purpose, your world of possibilities will go on without you. That said, I propose to find your purpose as you go along with life, enjoying every single moment of it. Learn from all the experiences you dive into and collect every piece of information you unlock. What you like, what you don't like. What makes your soul tickle, what doesn't. What makes you feel secure, strong, grounded vs what makes you weak, insecure, lost...and so on. Keep a journal to track your progress. You’ll see that without even realizing it, you will discover your life purpose. Just remember that when our purpose is external, we may never find it.
Yes, I said it. The BIG myth of our life purpose is focusing our purpose on external actions, facts and reasons. When in reality your purpose, my purpose, everyone’s purpose has nothing to do with anything external. Your self-worth has nothing to do with your craft or calling, but on how you treat yourself and others. I don’t blame you. Countless folks have been publishing misleading information online. In addition, there are too many “experts” out there encouraging others to focus their attention on external matters. Think about it, if we don’t learn how to deal with ourselves first, how can we be ready to assist someone else? In fact, if we tie our purpose or meaning to our vocation, goal or an activity, we’re likely setting ourselves up for discomfort, personal crisis and even failure down the line. Your purpose is to awaken. To discover and nurture who you truly are, to know and love yourself at the deepest level. To learn how to become self-aware, to grow your leadership skills, to strengthen your self-conviction and inner strength; and most important, to master the art of guiding yourself back home when you lose your way. It is like a muscle, the more you exercise it, the more aware and present you become; and, the more peace of mind and harmony will fill your life.
Everything else is your burning passion, your inspired mission, your daily motivation, your love-fueled hobby, your so-called vocation. Those things are powerful and highly worthy, but they’re not your purpose. Your purpose is much bigger than that. I know it is very easy to get lost looking for it, and difficult to figure it out. In most cultures we are not told or encouraged to learn about ourselves when we are young, so we grow up following family, friends and social patterns. Thus why, when we are confronted with the reality of having to make life choices such as what to study, where to live, what to do for living, where and in what should we invest our money and time, we tend to feel lost. Most people get lost when making choices in alignment with society, or with what friends and family members tell them to do. Yet when we follow our purpose, everything falls into place, we feel attuned and our work resonates with our personal vision.
To give you an idea, my deeper understanding of purpose feels right in the darkest moments of my life. It eases my pains and doubts. It diffuses the ache of separateness I experience when I doubt myself or when my work isn’t appreciated or overlooked. It keeps me grounded and focused. Sometimes people will treasure your work treating you as a superstar, sometimes they won’t. Sometimes you will get that precious well paid client or project/account, sometimes you won’t. Sometimes you will feel wonderful and beautiful inside out, sometimes you won’t. You’ll be on the marquee and you’ll be passé. Sometimes you will increase your likes and community of followers; other times you’ll be unfriended, unfollowed and unliked. You’ll be thanked and you’ll be taken for granted. That’s the ecology of life. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. But, so then what? You have no purpose or meaning?
Can you see how depending on outside forces can confuse you making you feel depleted, depressed and even resentful? Anchor your purpose within, my dear friend. You spend the majority of your lifetime with yourself alone. So when you learn how to become your own best friend, your own rock, your own lucky charm, you become unstoppable, self-sufficient, free, and independent from outside forces. That’s powerful self-leadership and self-development. Then, you will expand inside out. You will be ready to be seen and appreciated. Your community of supporters will grow and stay. Your sense of belonging will exponentially enlarge itself. You will free up your mind and generate bigger, more positive results. Believe me, your reach and impact will reflect your positioning, attitude and efforts.
Just take it step by step. Don’t rush it, or you will be slapped on the face by the same hidden dynamics keeping your life path and business practice as a crazy yo-yo. Dust off some happiness in your life, check a post I wrote about how to achieve happiness to support your journey. Cherish every accomplishment. Enjoy your victories and losses. Learn the lessons life is putting in front of you. Engage with life and tell us more about it! I definitely want to hear from you!